The Six of Wands as Feelings: Proud, Pleased and Wanting to Be Seen With You

Written by Chaya the Medium.

The Six of Wands rides through a crowd with a laurel wreath. Here is what I would read when it appears as someone's feelings, and why being shown off is a signal.

If you want the short answer, I would read the Six of Wands as feelings that are proud and public. In a feelings position the card suggests the person feels good about you and wants that known: they are pleased to be with you, pleased to be seen with you, and inclined to say so. It does not tell you the feeling is tender. Pride and tenderness are different things, and this card is mostly the first.

This is a flattering card and an honest one about what kind of flattering. The person is riding through the crowd with you on the wreath.

The Six of Wands upright as feelings

Tina Gong's the Six of Wands guide at Labyrinthos associates the upright card with victory, success, public recognition and progress. When the card lands in a position that asks how someone feels about you, I read those meanings as the shape of the feeling rather than as a verdict on the person.

Upright, I read the Six of Wands as a person who feels that you are something they have done well: a success, a match worth showing, someone who makes them look and feel good. That can be lovely. It can also mean their feeling is partly about the crowd, and the crowd is fickle.

What I would not read into it is depth of intimacy. The Six of Wands is a parade, and parades are not where people are most themselves. Look for what happens when the crowd goes home.

What the card does not tell you

The card does not confirm that the person's pride would survive your being less impressive, that the public warmth matches the private, or that they want you for yourself rather than for what you signal. No card lets a reader check a real person's private feelings. What a card can do is give you an honest picture of the feeling you are hoping for or fearing, and a prompt to compare it with how the person actually behaves.

The Six of Wands reversed as feelings

Reversed, the Six of Wands is often read as a fall from grace, egotism, or recognition withheld. As feelings, I read the reversal as a person whose feeling for you is bound up with their own image and goes cold when you do not serve it, or as someone who feels proud of you and will not show it, for reasons of their own.

In your own question, ask which fits. Does the person's warmth rise and fall with how you reflect on them? Or do they clearly value you and keep you oddly hidden? A reversed card is a prompt to notice which of those is true from what you can see, not a diagnosis of the other person.

The Six of Wands as an ex's feelings

Asked about an ex, the Six of Wands can suggest that they remember you as a success, a good chapter, something they were proud of. That is pleasant and it is not longing. It can occasionally describe a wish to be seen with you again, which is a public wish and not always a private one. My guide to asking a psychic whether an ex will come back explains what a reading can and cannot say about that question.

The Six of Wands as a new person's feelings

For someone new, this card suggests they are pleased with you and want others to know. Enjoy being shown off. Notice whether the person is as interested in you in a quiet room as they are in a full one, because the quiet room is where the feeling lives if it lives anywhere.

What to watch for in their behaviour

Look for public warmth: they introduce you readily, speak well of you to others, want you at their side at events. A Six of Wands feeling is visible in company. Its depth is visible only in private, so look there too.

What to record before drawing again

Keep three short notes: the question you asked, how the person treats you in public, and how they treat you alone. The difference between the second and third notes is the thing to understand. Another draw will mostly reflect the same rider and the same crowd.

For comparison, the Four of Wands as feelings and the Sun as feelings describe different feelings. The the Six of Wands card meaning page covers the card outside feelings questions, and the general card meanings at Biddy Tarot are a useful second reference. You can practise a single-card reflection with the free daily tarot tool. For a personal interpretation, my guide to a love psychic reading online explains how I work, and the three-card tarot listing and customer reviews are worth reading before deciding whether to order.