Temperance as How Someone Sees You: Balanced, Calming and Easy to Be Around

Written by Chaya the Medium.

Temperance as how someone sees you means they see the angel pouring between cups. Here is what the picture includes, upright and reversed, and what it may lack.

If you want the short answer, Temperance as how someone sees you means they see you as balancing: calm, moderate, fair, someone who lowers the temperature of a room and makes things feel manageable. It is a restful picture and a trusted one. It is also sometimes a picture without heat, and whether that bothers you depends on what you wanted them to see.

This is you as the angel with one foot in the water, pouring without spilling. They see the balance. They may not see the fire you are holding in proportion.

Temperance upright as how someone sees you

Tina Gong's Temperance guide at Labyrinthos associates the upright card with balance, moderation, patience and purpose. When the card lands in a position that asks how someone sees you, I read those meanings as the image the person holds of you, which is not the same as who you are and not the same as what they feel. Temperance as feelings covers what they feel; Temperance as intentions covers what they plan. This page covers the picture. The Major Arcana overview at Biddy Tarot is a useful second reference.

Upright, I read Temperance as a person who sees you as good for them: steadying, reasonable, healing to be near, someone who does not add to the chaos. They value you for the peace you bring. In the upright card the valuing is real, and it may be the valuing of a medicine rather than a passion.

What I would not read into it is that they see your intensity. Temperance is seen for her moderation. The strong feelings you keep in proportion are not usually in the picture other people hold.

What the card does not tell you

The card does not confirm the person finds you exciting, that the trust is romantic, or that they see the effort behind the calm. No card lets a reader see inside another person's head. What a card can do is describe the kind of image that fits the person's behaviour toward you, and give you something to check against how they actually treat you.

Temperance reversed as how someone sees you

Reversed, Temperance as how someone sees you means the picture has gone from balanced to bland or from calm to erratic: they see you as dull, indecisive, fence-sitting, or they have seen you lose the balance and swing, and the steadiness they valued has started to look unreliable.

In your own question, ask whether the person has lately seemed bored by your evenness, or startled by you losing it. A reversed card here is a prompt to notice whether the picture the person holds has gone sour or gone wrong, not a verdict on you.

Temperance as how an ex sees you

Asked how an ex sees you, Temperance suggests they remember you as calm, fair and good for them, and possibly as something they took like medicine rather than chose like a love. It is a picture with gratitude in it and sometimes a later regret. The regret is for the peace, and peace does not always draw people back. My guide to asking a psychic whether an ex will come back explains what a reading can and cannot say about that question.

Temperance as how a new person sees you

For someone new, this card means they find you steadying and easy, which is a good base. Let them see something that is not moderate, once, and the picture gains a pulse.

How to check the picture against reality

Look at whether the person comes to you for calm or for company. Look at whether they ever see you be unreasonable and enjoy it. A Temperance picture is restful and can be flat; the way to change it is to let the fire show in proportion.

What to record before drawing again

Keep three short notes: the question you asked, what the person seems to value in you, and the last time they saw you want something strongly. The third note is the picture's missing colour.

For comparison, Strength as how someone sees you and the Star as how someone sees you describe different pictures. The Temperance card meaning page covers the card in full, and Temperance as a person covers the card when it describes a temperament rather than an image. For a personal interpretation, my guide to a love psychic reading online explains how I work, and the three-card tarot listing and customer reviews are worth reading before deciding whether to order.