The Star as How Someone Sees You: Hope After Something Hard

Written by Chaya the Medium.

The Star as how someone sees you means you are the light they steer by. Here is what the picture includes, upright and reversed, and why it is gentle and heavy at once.

If you want the short answer, the Star as how someone sees you means they see you as hope: as something good that arrived after something hard, as a light, as a reason to believe again. It is a tender picture and a weighty one. Being someone's star is lovely and it asks you to be steady, because the person has been hurt before and is looking up.

This is you as the star over the figure at the pool. They see you as something to steer by. They have not seen you have a bad day yet.

The Star upright as how someone sees you

Tina Gong's the Star guide at Labyrinthos associates the upright card with hope, renewal, faith, inspiration and serenity. When the card lands in a position that asks how someone sees you, I read those meanings as the image the person holds of you, which is not the same as who you are and not the same as what they feel. the Star as feelings covers what they feel; the Star as intentions covers what they plan. This page covers the picture. The general card meanings at Biddy Tarot are a useful second reference.

Upright, I read the Star as a person who sees you as healing: calm, honest, open, part of their recovery. They trust you. They may associate you with the good that came after the Tower fell in their life. In the upright card the trust is real and the picture is gentle.

What I would not read into it is accuracy under pressure. A star is seen from a distance. Whether the person's picture of you survives seeing you close up and tired is the thing to find out.

What the card does not tell you

The card does not confirm the person sees you as a partner rather than a comfort, that their hope is romantic, or that the picture leaves room for you to be ordinary. No card lets a reader see inside another person's head. What a card can do is describe the kind of image that fits the person's behaviour toward you, and give you something to check against how they actually treat you.

The Star reversed as how someone sees you

Reversed, the Star as how someone sees you means the hope has gone out of the picture: they see you as a disappointment after expecting too much, or they cannot let themselves see you hopefully because the last time cost too much. The light is still there. They have stopped looking up.

In your own question, ask whether the person has been visibly hurt before and gone careful, or whether something you did has dimmed the picture and they have not said so. A reversed card here is a prompt to notice whether the picture the person holds has gone sour or gone wrong, not a verdict on you.

The Star as how an ex sees you

Asked how an ex sees you, the Star suggests they have healed enough to see you with warmth and even hope. Healing leads back and leads on with equal ease, and the Star is at home in both stories. Watch what they do with the hope. My guide to asking a psychic whether an ex will come back explains what a reading can and cannot say about that question.

The Star as how a new person sees you

For someone new, this is a tender card: they see you as something good and are approaching it carefully. Be steady. The picture is of a light, and lights are trusted for not flickering.

How to check the picture against reality

Look for openness and trust: they share things that matter, they are honest about where they are, they do not play games. A Star picture shows as being trusted. If you find yourself trusted with something tender, the card is upright.

What to record before drawing again

Keep three short notes: the question you asked, what the person has trusted you with, and whether they have seen you be ordinary yet. The third note is where the star becomes a person.

For comparison, the Sun as feelings and the Lovers as how someone sees you describe different pictures. The the Star card meaning page covers the card in full, and the Star as a yes or no and the Star as timing cover the other questions people most often ask of it. For a personal interpretation, my guide to a love psychic reading online explains how I work, and the three-card tarot listing and customer reviews are worth reading before deciding whether to order.