The King of Wands as How Someone Sees You: A Leader, Admired and Not Always Argued With

Written by Chaya the Medium.

The King of Wands as how someone sees you means they see the throne and the decision. Here is what the picture includes, upright and reversed.

If you want the short answer, the King of Wands as how someone sees you means they see you as a leader: confident, decisive, visionary, the one who takes charge and makes things happen. It is a respectful picture and often an admiring one. It can also be a picture of someone they do not feel able to contradict, and that shapes what they tell you.

This is you as the King leaning forward on the throne. They see the authority. They may have stopped telling you when they disagree.

The King of Wands upright as how someone sees you

Tina Gong's the King of Wands guide at Labyrinthos associates the upright card with leadership, vision, bold action and natural authority. When the card lands in a position that asks how someone sees you, I read those meanings as the image the person holds of you, which is not the same as who you are and not the same as what they feel. the King of Wands as feelings covers what they feel; the King of Wands as intentions covers what they plan. This page covers the picture. The Minor Arcana overview at Biddy Tarot is a useful second reference.

Upright, I read the King of Wands as a person who sees you as capable and commanding: someone who knows where they are going and takes people with them. They admire your drive. They may defer to you more than you realise, and the upright card means the deference is mostly willing.

What I would not read into it is that they see your doubts. The King of Wands is seen as certain. If you have any, the person probably does not know.

What the card does not tell you

The card does not confirm the person sees you warmly rather than respectfully, that they feel equal to you, or that they tell you the truth when it is inconvenient. No card lets a reader see inside another person's head. What a card can do is describe the kind of image that fits the person's behaviour toward you, and give you something to check against how they actually treat you.

The King of Wands reversed as how someone sees you

Reversed, the King of Wands as how someone sees you means the picture has gone from leader to tyrant: they see you as domineering, impatient, arrogant, someone who does not listen. The authority they respected has started to feel like being ruled.

In your own question, ask whether the person has lately gone quiet in disagreements, or whether they have said anything about not being heard. A reversed card here is a prompt to notice whether the picture the person holds has gone sour or gone wrong, not a verdict on you.

The King of Wands as how an ex sees you

Asked how an ex sees you, the King of Wands suggests they remember you as strong, decisive and possibly overbearing, the one who ran the relationship. It is a picture with respect in it and sometimes with relief. Few exes return to a King of Wands they felt ruled by; some return to one they felt protected by. My guide to asking a psychic whether an ex will come back explains what a reading can and cannot say about that question.

The King of Wands as how a new person sees you

For someone new, this card means they are impressed by your confidence and may be a little deferential. Make room for their opinion early, or the picture hardens into one where they never give it.

How to check the picture against reality

Look at whether the person disagrees with you and how it goes when they do. Look at whether they bring you problems or only solutions. A King of Wands picture is strong and can be isolating; the way to soften it is to ask and then listen.

What to record before drawing again

Keep three short notes: the question you asked, what the person seems to respect in you, and the last time they told you something you did not want to hear. If the third note is empty, the picture has a wall in it.

For comparison, the Queen of Wands as how someone sees you and the King of Swords as how someone sees you describe different pictures. The the King of Wands card meaning page covers the card in full, and the King of Wands as a person covers the card when it describes a temperament rather than an image. For a personal interpretation, my guide to a love psychic reading online explains how I work, and the three-card tarot listing and customer reviews are worth reading before deciding whether to order.