The Queen of Wands as How Someone Sees You: Confident, Warm and a Little Intimidating

Written by Chaya the Medium.

The Queen of Wands as how someone sees you means they see the sunflower and the black cat. Here is what the picture includes, upright and reversed.

If you want the short answer, the Queen of Wands as how someone sees you means they see you as confident, warm, magnetic and entirely yourself: the one who lights the room, who knows what she wants, who everyone notices. It is an admiring picture. It is also sometimes an intimidated one, and people who hold it can hang back because they assume you have options.

This is you as the Queen on the throne with the sunflower. They see the warmth and the certainty. They may be wondering whether there is room for them.

The Queen of Wands upright as how someone sees you

Tina Gong's the Queen of Wands guide at Labyrinthos associates the upright card with confidence, independence, warmth and determination. When the card lands in a position that asks how someone sees you, I read those meanings as the image the person holds of you, which is not the same as who you are and not the same as what they feel. the Queen of Wands as feelings covers what they feel; the Queen of Wands as intentions covers what they plan. This page covers the picture. The Minor Arcana overview at Biddy Tarot is a useful second reference.

Upright, I read the Queen of Wands as a person who sees you as a force: attractive, capable, generous, direct, the one who runs things and makes it fun. They admire you and they may be a little dazzled. They see someone who does not need them, and that can read as freedom or as a reason not to try.

What I would not read into it is that they see your private side. The Queen of Wands is seen in full sun. The black cat, the part of you that keeps its own counsel, is usually not in their picture.

What the card does not tell you

The card does not confirm the person sees you as approachable, that their admiration is romantic rather than impressed, or that they believe you would want them. No card lets a reader see inside another person's head. What a card can do is describe the kind of image that fits the person's behaviour toward you, and give you something to check against how they actually treat you.

The Queen of Wands reversed as how someone sees you

Reversed, the Queen of Wands as how someone sees you means the picture has gone from confident to domineering: they see you as bossy, demanding, jealous, or too much, someone who takes up the room rather than lighting it. The warmth they admired has started to feel like heat to them.

In your own question, ask whether the person has lately seemed to withdraw when you take charge, or whether they have said anything about feeling overshadowed. A reversed card here is a prompt to notice whether the picture the person holds has gone sour or gone wrong, not a verdict on you.

The Queen of Wands as how an ex sees you

Asked how an ex sees you, the Queen of Wands suggests they remember you as vivid, confident and hard to keep up with, and possibly as someone they were not enough for. It is a picture with admiration and a little resentment in it. Which one is stronger depends on how it ended. My guide to asking a psychic whether an ex will come back explains what a reading can and cannot say about that question.

The Queen of Wands as how a new person sees you

For someone new, this card means they are impressed and possibly hanging back. They see the Queen. If you want them closer, you may have to make it plain there is room, because they will not assume it.

How to check the picture against reality

Look at whether the person approaches you or waits to be approached. Look at whether they seem to relax around you or perform. A Queen of Wands picture is flattering and can be distancing; the way to close the gap is to let them see you want them.

What to record before drawing again

Keep three short notes: the question you asked, what the person seems to admire about you, and whether they have ever seen you uncertain. The third note is what would let them in.

For comparison, the Queen of Cups as how someone sees you and the King of Wands as how someone sees you describe different pictures. The the Queen of Wands card meaning page covers the card in full, and the Queen of Wands as a person covers the card when it describes a temperament rather than an image. For a personal interpretation, my guide to a love psychic reading online explains how I work, and the three-card tarot listing and customer reviews are worth reading before deciding whether to order.